Worship Leader Wanted - 

Over the past few years I have had the opportunity to spend time with leadership from three major Christian universities to give input into their current academic curriculum as it relates to Church Music Majors. The common dynamic with these three great schools was that the "product" that was graduating under the umbrella of Church Music Degree was NOT in many ways prepared for the expectations of today's church.

My first experience was with the University of Mobile where Roger Breland, (a huge influence in my life since I was 19) was asked to take on the position of Dean of the Center for Performing Arts. As founder of Christian recording group TRUTH in the early 70s, Dr. Breland has made his calling to invest in young Christian talent and in my opinion, he is unparalleled in that quest. The call to retool the scope and vision of this fine music program was the singular act of one man, University of Mobile President, Dr. Mark Foley, who backed Dr. Breland completely thru every major decision involved in this quest. In just a few years time this division of music has shown exponential growth and now features many premiere performing groups including their stunning brass and percussion group, RamCorps and the powerful vocal ensemble, Voices. In addition, Dr Breland has brought to this campus some of the finest academic and musical talent in the country including Integrity Music's Dr. Pete Sanchez, Don Wolf, Dr. Al Miller. 

My second experience was at Liberty University where Dr. Vernon Whaley invited me to teach at their Liberty Center for Worship. Here again, Dr. Jerry Falwell stood with Dr Whaley in the reshaping of their current academic program; not jettisoning the current structure, but adding and broadening the options for today's prospective worship leader. One of the Liberty University Center for Worship strong points is the consistent exposure of their students to real world application by bringing in adjunct faculty members to teach. Current large church worship pastors are invited to teach on a short term basis, but to bring to the classroom real world experience.

The third and most recent was at Trevecca University in Nashville where I spent some of the more stimulating hours I have spent in recent days with five other men from around the country. In attendance for this intensive 36 hours was Chuck Fromm, Editor of Worship Leader Magazine; Howard Rachinski, founder of CCLI; Jim VanHook, Christian Music Industry Veteran; Carlton Dillard, Worship Pastor from Riverbend Church in Austin; and Dr Dan Boone, President of Trevecca University.

The common element to each of these appointments was the desire of these institutions of higher learning to deliberately train up a new generation of worship leaders for the local church. Each of these schools had a strong history of excellent music programs and graduates who entered the work force with excellent music skills. But the shared sentiment among all three was that the needs of the local church were not matching the profies of the graduates coming out of these music programs.

Being given this opportunity has expanded my perspective in some ways, but also has confirmed many of my long standing beliefs in others. 

I think most would agree that the worship / music expectations of today's local church are profoundly different than they were in generations past. The plethora of styles alone makes the expectations for a single local church music program quite mind boggling. Add to that the sense of entitlement felt by today's lay person and you have created a formula for failure in many cases. 

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By Abraham Piper 
May 9, 2007 

My son Abraham, who speaks from the wisdom of experience and Scripture, 
has written the article that follows. I read it with tears and laughter. It is so 
compelling that I asked him immediately if I could share it with the church and 
the wider Christian community. There is no greater joy than to see your children 
walking in the truth—and expressing it so well. The rest is Abraham’s 
untouched. -John Piper 
Many parents are brokenhearted and completely baffled by their unbelieving son 
or daughter. They have no clue why the child they raised well is making such 
awful, destructive decisions. I’ve never been one of these parents, but I have 
been one of these sons. Reflecting back on that experience, I offer these 
suggestions to help you reach out to your wayward child. 
1. Point them to Christ. 
Your rebellious child’s real problem is not drugs or sex or cigarettes or 
pornography or laziness or crime or cussing or slovenliness or homosexuality or 
being in a punk rock band. The real problem is that they don’t see Jesus clearly. 
The best thing you can do for them—and the only reason to do any of the 
following suggestions—is to show them Christ. It is not a simple or immediate 
process, but the sins in their life that distress you and destroy them will only 
begin to fade away when they see Jesus more like he actually is. 
2. Pray. 
Only God can save your son or daughter, so keep on asking that he will display
himself to them in a way they can’t resist worshiping him for. 
3. Acknowledge that something is wrong. 
If your daughter rejects Jesus, don’t pretend everything is fine. 
For every unbelieving child, the details will be different. Each one will require 
parents to reach out in unique ways. Never acceptable, however, is not reaching 
out at all. If your child is an unbeliever, don’t ignore it. Holidays might be easier, 
but eternity won’t be. 
4. Don’t expect them to be Christ-like. 
If your son is not a Christian, he’s not going to act like one.
You know that he has forsaken the faith, so don’t expect him to live by the 
standards you raised him with. For example, you might be tempted to say, “I 
know you’re struggling with believing in Jesus, but can’t you at least admit that
getting wasted every day is sin?” 
If he’s struggling to believe in Jesus, then there is very little significance in 
admitting that drunkenness is wrong. You want to protect him, yes. But his 
unbelief is the most dangerous problem—not partying. No matter how your 
child’s unbelief exemplifies itself in his behavior, always be sure to focus more on 
the heart’s sickness than its symptoms. 
5. Welcome them home. 
Because the deepest concern is not your child’s actions, but his heart, don’t 
create too many requirements for coming home. If he has any inkling to be with 
you, it is God giving you a chance to love him back to Jesus. Obviously there 
are some instances in which parents must give ultimatums: “Don’t come to this
house if you are...” But these will be rare. Don’t lessen the likelihood of an 
opportunity to be with your child by too many rules. 
If your daughter smells like weed or an ashtray, spray her jacket with Febreze 
and change the sheets when she leaves, but let her come home. If you find out 
she’s pregnant, then buy her folic acid, take her to her twenty-week ultrasound, 
protect her from Planned Parenthood, and by all means let her come home. If 
your son is broke because he spent all the money you lent him on loose women 
and ritzy liquor, then forgive his debt as you’ve been forgiven, don’t give him 
any more money, and let him come home. If he hasn’t been around for a week 
and a half because he’s been staying at his girlfriend’s—or boyfriend’s— 
apartment, plead with him not to go back, and let him come home. 
6. Plead with them more than you rebuke them. 
Be gentle in your disappointment. 
What really concerns you is that your child is destroying herself, not that she’s 
breaking rules. Treat her in a way that makes this clear. She probably knows— 
especially if she was raised as a Christian—that what she’s doing is wrong. And
she definitely knows you think it is. So she doesn’t need this pointed out. She 
needs to see how you are going to react to her evil. Your gentle forbearance and 
sorrowful hope will show her that you really do trust Jesus. 
Her conscience can condemn her by itself. Parents ought to stand kindly and 
firmly, always living in the hope that they want their child to return to. 
7. Connect them to believers who have better access to them. 
There are two kinds of access that you may not have to your child: geographical 
and relational. If your wayward son lives far away, try to find a solid believer in
and relational. If your wayward son lives far away, try to find a solid believer in 
his area and ask him to contact your son. This may seem nosy or stupid or 
embarrassing to him, but it’s worth it—especially if the believer you find can 
also relate to your son emotionally in a way you can’t. 
Relational distance will also be a side effect of your child leaving the faith, so 
your relationship will be tenuous and should be protected if at all possible. But
hard rebuke is still necessary. 
This is where another believer who has emotional access to your son may be 
very helpful. If there is a believer who your son trusts and perhaps even enjoys 
being around, then that believer has a platform to tell your son—in a way he 
may actually pay attention to—that he’s being an idiot. This may sound harsh, 
but it’s a news flash we all need from time to time, and people we trust are 
usually the only ones who can package a painful rebuke so that it is a gift to us. 
A lot of rebellious kids would do well to hear that they’re being fools—and it is
rare that this can helpfully be pointed out by their parents—so try to keep other 
Christians in your kids lives. 
8. Respect their friends. 
Honor your wayward child in the same way you’d honor any other unbeliever. 
They may run with crowds you’d never consider talking to or even looking at, 
but they are your child’s friends. Respect that—even if the relationship is 
founded on sin. They’re bad for your son, yes. But he’s bad for them, too. 
Nothing will be solved by making it perfectly evident that you don’t like who 
he’s hanging around with. 
When your son shows up for a family birthday celebration with another girlfriend 
—one you’ve never seen before and probably won’t see again—be hospitable. 
She’s also someone’s wayward child, and she needs Jesus, too. 
9. Email them. 
Praise God for technology that lets you stay in your kids’ lives so easily! 
When you read something in the Bible that encourages you and helps you love 
Jesus more, write it up in a couple lines and send it to your child. The best 
exhortation for them is positive examples of Christ’s joy in your own life. 
Don’t stress out when you’re composing these as if each one needs to be 
singularly powerful. Just whip them out one after another, and let the 
cumulative effect of your satisfaction in God gather up in your child’s inbox. 
God’s word is never proclaimed in vain. 
10. Take them to lunch.
If possible, don’t let your only interaction with your child be electronic. Get 
together with him face to face if you can. You may think this is stressful and 
uncomfortable, but trust me that it’s far worse to be in the child’s shoes—he is
experiencing all the same discomfort, but compounded by guilt. So if he is 
willing to get together with you for lunch, praise God, and use the opportunity.
It will feel almost hypocritical to talk about his daily life, since what you really 
care about is his eternal life, but try to anyway. He needs to know you care 
about all of him. Then, before lunch is over, pray that the Lord will give you the
gumption to ask about his soul. You don’t know how he’ll respond. Will he roll 
his eyes like you’re an idiot? Will he get mad and leave? Or has God been 
working in him since you talked last? You don’t know until you risk asking. 
(Here’s a note to parents of younger children: Set up regular times to go out to
eat with your kids. Not only will this be valuable for its own sake, but also, if 
they ever enter a season of rebellion, the tradition of meeting with them will 
already be in place and it won’t feel weird to ask them out to lunch. If a son has 
been eating out on Saturdays with his dad since he was a tot, it will be much 
harder for him later in life to say no to his father’s invitation—even as a surly 
nineteen-year-old.) 
11. Take an interest in their pursuits. 
Odds are that if your daughter is purposefully rejecting Christ, then the way she 
spends her time will probably disappoint you. Nevertheless, find the value in her 
interests, if possible, and encourage her. You went to her school plays and 
soccer games when she was ten; what can you do now that she’s twenty to show 
that you still really care about her interests? 
Jesus spent time with tax collectors and prostitutes, and he wasn’t even related
to them. Imitate Christ by being the kind of parent who will put some earplugs 
in your pocket and head downtown to that dank little nightclub where your 
daughter’s CD release show is. Encourage her and never stop praying that she 
will begin to use her gifts for Jesus’ glory instead her own. 
12. Point them to Christ. 
This can’t be over-stressed. It is the whole point. No strategy for reaching your
son or daughter will have any lasting effect if the underlying goal isn’t to help 
them know Jesus. 
Jesus. 
It’s not so that they will be good kids again; it’s not so that they’ll get their hair 
cut and start taking showers; it’s not so that they’ll like classical music instead of 
deathcore; it’s not so that you can stop being embarrassed at your weekly Bible 
study; it’s not so that they’ll vote conservative again by the next election; it’s not 
even so that you can sleep at night, knowing they’re not going to hell.
even so that you can sleep at night, knowing they’re not going to hell. 
The only ultimate reason to pray for them, welcome them, plead with them, 
email them, eat with them, or take an interest in their interests is so that their 
eyes will be opened to Christ. 
And not only is he the only point—he’s the only hope. When they see the 
wonder of Jesus, satisfaction will be redefined. He will replace the pathetic 
vanity of the money, or the praise of man, or the high, or the orgasm that they 
are staking their eternities on right now. Only his grace can draw them from 
their perilous pursuits and bind them safely to himself—captive, but satisfied. 
He will do this for many. Be faithful and don’t give up. 
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